7 Years

Today marks 7 years since Christian and I said “I do” in a tiny private ceremony at a Justice of the Peace that is now less than a mile from our house!

December 23, 2005

I’ve never seen the movie “The Seven Year Itch” but I understand that it’s based on the idea that this is about the time in a marriage where things can solidify into negative patterns. I can totally see what they mean by that. Marriage is hard work and I have a pattern in my life of giving up when things get difficult. When I made that promise, I meant it, and divorce is not even an option for either of us. But there are many ways a couple can live in a marriage that are “un-divorced” but not in unity of mind or heart. Where you can give up but not actually leave. That is where the 7 years becomes dangerous, and we have really seen that potential since having our kids. This year, I am thankful that we made the investment in our marriage to attend 20 weeks of ReEngage at Watermark. It was 20 weeks where I had to get my kids up to church by myself ¬†and put them in childcare for the second time in one day, and it was stressful sometimes but definitely worth it. We met 3 other couples who were such blessings to us as we all talked about the issues in our marriages and how we can each take responsibility for our own side. I can’t believe we won’t be seeing them every week going forward and I will miss them a lot as we move on to other commitments in 2013.

I hope that in this 8th year of marriage, we take the lessons we have learned and re-learned and continue to actively apply them with the help of God and our community of friends.

Here’s to many more years – I love you, Christian!

One thought on “7 Years

  1. Elizabeth Wickland says:

    Awww! Look at you all young and glowy!! Keep at it… the struggle is worth it and, I am convinced, part of what God uses to make both of you look more like Him. Happy Anniversary, and I pray for many more years with each other!

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